How Do We Get Beyond to Brokenhearted
In Chapter 11 of the Uninvited Book, Lysa Terkeurst tells us, “We must praise God, seek God, look to God, call to God, experience God, fear God, learn from God, honor God, draw near to God, and take refuge in God.” To help us practice this, she gives us “ten things to remember and proclaim.” Which of these do you need most to help YOU get beyond brokenhearted? With God, in your journal or notebook, work through the list of applications for what you need to remember and proclaim most.
1. One rejection is not a projection of future failures (pp. 130-131)
What rejection is causing you to project future failures? On page 130 of the uninvited book, Lysa shares four “No, but…” statements. Write out your own “No, but…” statements for each of you rejections. “No, ________________. But that doesn’t mean ____________________.”
2. Rejection doesn’t label you; it enables you to adjust and move on (pp. 131-132)
What label(s) has rejection given you? Write this out, filing in the blanks: “This rejection doesn’t mean I’m _____________ [whatever negative label or shame-filled feeling you are having]. It makes this _______________________ [opportunity, person, desire] a wrong fit for me right now.”
3. This could be an invitation to live in expectation of something else (pp.132-133)
Let’s live in expectation of God’s invitation! Journal a prayer, asking God to show you the plans HE has for you and what HE would have you spend your time on. Then listen and watch, with great intentionality, for those good things to be revealed to you!
4. There is usually some element of protection wrapped in every rejection (pp.133-34)
Past rejections are a great learning tool and motivator to help us get through current and future rejections! Reflect and journal on your past rejections, looking for possible protections from God. How does realizing God’s past protections help you face rejection today?
5. It’s good to ask the “what” questions but less helpful to ask “why” (p 135-136)
Are you stuck in the “whys” from your rejection? Like Lysa says, “What questions increase our ability to become more self-aware, while “why” questions only focus on things out of our control.” Work through the helpful “what” questions Lysa provides in this section.
6. Don’t hash, bash or trash on the internet. Remember, the internet never forgets (pp. 136-137)
Do you have past “venting” on the internet you regret? Like Lysa writes, “Don’t let today’s reaction become tomorrow’s regret.” What action/step can you take to prevent venting you’ll regret?
7. There’s much more to you than the part that was rejected (pp. 137-139)
Rejection have you feeling less than? Take some time to discover new things about yourself. List the things you’ve tried that didn’t work out. Then pray for God to reveal common threads you can learn them. Like Lysa, you might find clues of what you were made to do instead!
8. What one person sees as your liability, another might see as a wonderful asset (pp. 139-140)
Did someone point out a perceived “liability” in you? What can you learn from their opinion by putting yourself in their shoes? How can you make sure you extend grace and honor God in your reaction?
9. This is a short-term setback, not a permanent condition (pp. 140-141)
Has your rejection tried to take up permanent residence in your heart? Are there “triggers” that cause negative thoughts, words and actions in you as a result? Take some time to identify and eliminate any reminders that are triggers for you.
10. Don’t let this heartbreak destroy you. Let this breaking actually be the making of you. Let God use it in good ways to make you stronger and take you further. (pp. 141-145)
Is rejection causing you to feel brokenhearted? Like Lysa says, “Don’t let what breaks your heart destroy your life. Hold fast to Jesus and remember: This breaking of you will be the making of you. A new you. A stronger you.” Take some time to reflect on past and current rejections. Where can you see how God has used the “breaking of you” to be the “making of you?”
Be blessed and be a blessing!
Taken from the Uninvited Book by Lysa TerKeurst